The Tools

Malcolm and Jess fell in love fast, married young, and for years projected perfection. To the outsider, they were Jess, a brilliant and...

In family roles, the family hero (responsible one) is rigidly perfectionistic and insecure. Here are tips to change those patterns.

People-pleasers prioritize others over themselves, leading to anxiety and weak relationships. Here are steps to stop people-pleasing.

Kind people experience less stress & isolation and increased self-esteem, belonging, & perspective. Here are some tips on how to be kind.

Tips to replace negative coping mechanisms (behaviors with awful long-term consequences) with positive coping skills.

Tips for challenging overgeneralizing, or viewing one negative event as a never-ending pattern.

Catastrophizing makes upsetting situations feel like disasters and causes people to over-respond. Here are tips for challenging it.

Discounting the positive is a cognitive distortion that leads people to reject their success. Here are tips for challenging it.

Brooke uses personalization, a cognitive distortion of excessive self-blame. Here are tips for challenging that thinking pattern.

Using all-or-nothing thinking, Greta thinks an imperfect concert will end her career. Here are tips for challenging cognitive distortions.

This post describes distorted automatic thoughts and provides tips to modify these thoughts for healthier responses.

It's Pride Month! This post, written by a loving ally for other allies, focuses on how to support someone when they come out to you.

Olivia experienced intimate partner violence for years before leaving, partly because of confusion. Here are red flags.

Hopeful people are happier, more resilient, and have better physical and mental health. Here are tips for fostering hope.

Following these five factors in substance use recovery significantly increases the likelihood of long-term relapse prevention.

Want tips to stop displacing anger? Mickey (in HOMEBODIES by Tembe Denton-Hurst) needs to learn, too.

Cleo is a dating columnist. Over the past few years, her job has been to swipe right on everything. Date with a stranger? Sure. An...

April’s mother left first. Years later, when April was in high school, her father started a new family, leaving April to live...

Harriet is going to her happy place. In real life, Harriet is walking a tightrope. She’s training to become a brain surgeon. The job is...

Frenemies look like friends but with underlying feelings of distrust, hostility, and jealousy. Here's how to manage these tricky situations.